3. God’s Faithful Love Builds Us into a Faithful People for the Persons Around Us
“Let us hold unswervingly to the hope we profess, for he who promised is faithful. And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, not giving up meeting together…”
Membership is the working-out of our participation in the Triune God, which implicates us in the places where God is also present: in the lives of other believers and in the world. God’s loving-fidelity is central to how he is forming a people. This loving-kindness flows out of the life of God and is for one another. It is not a commitment to an institution.
Christine Pohl helps us see how this loving-fidelity translates.
God abounds “in steadfast love and faithfulness” (Exod. 34:6), and stays faithful even when we fail. A covenant-making, promise-keeping God has formed a people of promise, carried by his own fidelity. We make promises to one another not because we can control the future, but because God’s steadfast love frames our promising. And much of this promise-keeping, Pohl notes, is undramatic: the meetings, the chores, the book-keeping, the welcome. The communities we long for are, in a phrase she borrows, “born of our fidelity to the present.” (Living into Community)
We want to tease out how this fidelity-reflecting love looks and deepens. It is the heart of committing to a place where God has called us together.
“Consider how we may spur one another on”
We need to consider the burdens shared and placed on one another. In the context of fidelity, we are our “brother’s keepers,” taking seriously the commitments and asks of one another. We also cultivate an awareness of the faithfulness shown to us, and respond in genuine gratitude.
Our service (that is, ministry) is always framed in mutuality: our gifts are practised in love to deepen each other in the resurrection life. We are not human resources to be used, nor volunteers to be leveraged. We are a people deepened in the faithful love of God. Practically, local church membership takes this view of one another seriously; perish the thought of “doing more.” Nevertheless, a deepening love for God and each other moves us into readiness to do good.
“Not giving up meeting together”
Fidelity shows itself as consistency. Pohl observes that structures and institutions, though we may be wary of them, are also expressions of fidelity over time. They help us persevere when perseverance is inconvenient or unsatisfying, and they guard us where God’s people are most often tempted: money, sex, and power. Promises may constrain us, but they also anchor us to what we most value. Jean Vanier puts it simply: the essential nourishment of community is “fidelity to the thousand and one small demands of each day.” Promise-keeping is not first of all costly; it is life-giving.
“Let us hold unswervingly”
Commitments take time to grow, and that runs against a culture that demands immediate results. Pohl notes that staying with a community through difficult or uncertain seasons allows progress to be made in spite of the messiness, and slowing down makes room for relationships to be tended.
Some problems cannot be fixed, and some wounds will not fully heal. Patient, grace-filled accompaniment is part of fidelity: being present with our love when we have no solutions to offer. Vanier, after decades in community, concluded that community is less about resolving problems than learning to live with them patiently. Pohl recalls a young friend in a dark season who kept asking, “You won’t give up on me, will you?” We tend to expect people to get better once we have invested in them. Learning to walk alongside those who don’t is an enormous gift.
Stability in community
Jonathan Wilson-Hartgrove reminds us that being “built together spiritually” (Eph. 2:22) is nothing less concrete than the flesh-and-blood life of Jesus with his disciples. Life in God’s house is life with people every bit as broken as we are. We learn to dwell with God through hospitality, listening, forgiveness, and reconciliation - the daily tasks of life together. In his words, “stability in Christ is always stability in community.” Drawing on Thomas Merton, he notes that monks vow stability to one particular family, and so become signs of what is true for all of us: we are being refashioned into a dwelling place for God, supporting one another like bricks in a wall. (The Wisdom of Stability)
For reflection
8. Who has been faithful to you over time, and how might you thank them?
9. Where are you tempted to measure community by what it produces rather than by faithfulness?
10. What small, daily demand of community life is God asking you to receive as nourishment?